“Is the Second Time Around a Charm?”

    “Is the Second Time Around a Charm?”



Hi Joe,

  I want to start off by first apologizing for the abrupt way that everything dissolved when my wife and I were preparing to close on the house on schoolhouse road. It was never my intention to do things that way and for that I am sorry. I am writing to you this morning to see if you would still be willing to work with me or if last time killed any chance of that? Either way I want to thank you once again for everything you did last time, and if we can not work together I hope you have a good rest of your day.



Things happen in life you just never understand. This was one very frustrating transaction. Originally it took a few months to handle a couple of outstanding credit issues and then the clients were good to go to find a home. A couple of months of searching and they found the right home. The mortgage applications had a few challenges, all of which were overcome and we had a clear to close and a closing date was set up.


One big problem, the client decided that he didn’t want to close and any discussion between his Realtor and me made any difference. Their only answer was that this “house isn’t right for me.”


Yes, the clients lost their deposit but it never really compensated the seller or anyone else involved with the transaction.


I was absolutely sure I would never hear from them again, but I guess that is not the case.


Would you work with these clients again?


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Comment balloon 18 commentsJoe Petrowsky • July 13 2016 05:13AM


Good morning Joe. You are more patient than I. I wouldn't spend the time with folks who weren't listeners and who may take my time and fade away again.

Posted by Sheila Anderson, The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133 (Referral Group Incorporated) about 3 years ago

Joe, that is a challenge & all things need to be put in perspective on whether the same type of behavior would surface again.

Posted by Ginny Gorman, Homes for Sale in North Kingstown RI and beyond (RI Real Estate Services ~ 401-529-7849~ RI Waterfront Real Estate) about 3 years ago

Good morning Joe Petrowsky ,

Sometimes life has a way of going down a different path than intended. You established a relationship with this client and probably have a better feel for if they are feeling more secure this time around. It's a call you will have to make ..at least they reached out to you and know you worked hard and would like to see you get compensated.

Posted by Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR, Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate (Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.750.6899) about 3 years ago

Joe Petrowsky I would give it one more shot and if it goes south again, then you have your answer as to the character of this client, rather than just not liking the house.

Posted by Sandy Padula and Norm Padula, JD, GRI, Presence, Persistence & Perseverance (HomeSmart Realty West & Geneva Financial, Llc.) about 3 years ago

Good morning Joe. Yes, I would give it one more try! Enjoy your day!

Posted by Wayne Martin, Real Estate Broker - Retired (Wayne M Martin) about 3 years ago

Joe, this is business. You helped them before and they are obviously very appreciative and put themselves out to come back to you. Go for it.

Posted by Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®, Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea about 3 years ago

Joe, I would definitely give them a second chance if you determine that they are able to qualify.

Posted by Sybil Campbell, REALTOR® ABR, SFR, SRES Williamsburg, Virginia (Long and Foster REALTORS® 5234 Monticello Ave Williamsburg, Virginia) about 3 years ago

Glad to see the responses here. Who knows what other people are dealing with? Yes, I would take them on, but we'd have a (gentle) conversation about communication and keeping me in the loop.

Posted by Mimi Foster, Voted Colorado Springs Best Realtor (FALCON PROPERTY SOLUTIONS ) about 3 years ago

Good morning Joe,

As with other things in my life; they would get a strike two but never the third one. 

Make yourself an astonishing day.

Posted by Raymond E. Camp, Licensed Real Estate Salesperson Greater Rochester (Howard Hanna Real Estate Services) about 3 years ago

I agree with the others. I often give people a second chance.

Posted by Gita Bantwal, REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel (RE/MAX Centre Realtors) about 3 years ago

Some people have ethical challenges, some people mean well, but are selfish and have poor communication skills.  I believe in second chances for the people in the latter case but tread carefully with people in the former.  I don't hesitate to tell them where they went wrong the first time, either. 

Posted by Susan Haughton, Susan & Mindy Team...Honesty. Integrity. Results. (Long and Foster REALTORS (703) 470-4545) about 3 years ago

Hi Joe Petrowsky I wouldn't have reached out to them, but since they reached out to you I WOULD HELP THEM AGAIN.

Bill Roberts

Posted by Bill Roberts, "Baby Boomer" Retirement Planner (Brooks and Dunphy Real Estate) about 3 years ago

Joe I would give them a second chance but this time there would be some ground rules.

Posted by George Souto, Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert (George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages) about 3 years ago

I love George Souto  comment ground rule...often people do not change...so be extra cautious, Endre

Posted by Endre Barath, Jr., Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002 (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices) about 3 years ago

If you set the ground rules absolutely. There evidently was something going on and you may never know. Forgive and move forward. 

Posted by Debbie Reynolds, Your Dedicated Clarksville TN Real Estate Agent (Platinum Properties) about 3 years ago

I think only you can answer that, Joe Petrowsky ... as you are the only one that actually spoke with these people and got a good read on the essence of who they are.  Personally, I typically give people the benefit of the doubt, especially when they are "big" enough to reach out to me again as these people have you.

Keep us informed as to your decision .. and the outcome ...  Best of luck!


Posted by Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi, 708.921.6331 - 40+ yrs experience (NMLS #216987, IL Lic. 031.0006220, WI Licensed. APMC NMLS #175656) about 3 years ago

Hi Joe Petrowsky!

That's an interesting story.  Perhaps a Buyer Broker Agreement with a non-refundable retainer credited back at close of escrow?

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Posted by Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers, Serving Scottsdale, Phoenix and Maricopa County AZ (Haven Express @ Keller Williams Arizona Realty) about 3 years ago

Joe, I had a situation where I worked for MONTHS on a very difficult short sale with my buyer, up on Fishhawk Lake. Her daughter threw her a curve and she backed out of everything--which meant no transaction. She asked a million questions along the way, had just enough knowledge to be dangerous and yes, she DID come back into my life about 2 years later. She is now about to close on a better home-fit for her and live at Fishhawk Lake fulltime. It's a better situation this time around and choosing to be in the present rather than in the past made a difference to the way the transaction has gone...i.e., smoothly this time. But, when you know how someone works, you are more prepared the second time around. 

Posted by Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate, "Your Local Expert!" 503-755-2905 (John L Scott Market Center) about 3 years ago