“I Understand Why Some People Attract”

“I Understand Why Some People Attract”



From time to time I would get referrals from a Realtor that is a real jerk, but haven’t in a number of months. I have asked him not to refer business to me as many of his clients are just like him and it just seems every transaction is a problem. I suggested he find someone else to torture.


I received a call from a couple wanting to discuss a mortgage. I always ask who referred them and sure enough it was this same agent. He apparently suggested they contact me directly. It would have been a bit strange to say to them, I don’t like working with your agent and probably wouldn’t really like working with you.


As the conversation went along it became pretty obvious why they work so well with this agent. It sounded like they have already spoken to a number of loan officers. I should have pulled the plug, but against my better judgement went on to discuss their mortgage needs and ended up putting together a pre-qualification letter for them. I explained to them they should use 6 weeks to obtain the mortgage. They explained that they already had seen a home that they were interested in.


Over the weekend I got a copy of a signed purchase agreement from the agent and the time period to close was 3 weeks. I immediately emailed back, included the clients letting them know the dates don’t work. The email I got back from the agent said an extension could be obtained, “if it is needed”.


Since I had a purchase agreement I contacted the listing agent to let her know the closing dates don’t work as it will most likely take 6 weeks. I haven’t heard back as of yet. The fun has already begun, what a poor way to do business.


What would you have done?


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Comment balloon 22 commentsJoe Petrowsky • November 09 2015 12:14PM


Joe: I would have immediately emailed back and said the "extra" time would be needed...6 weeks is 6 weeks.

Posted by Anita Clark, Realtor - Homes for Sale in Warner Robins GA (Coldwell Banker Access Realty ~ 478.960.8055) almost 5 years ago

Yes, I usually find that the clients are a good reflection of the agent.

That is just crazy.  Yes, an extension is needed.

Posted by Debbie Gartner, The Flooring Girl & Blog Stylist -Dynamo Marketers (The Flooring Girl) almost 5 years ago

Joe, It seems that "birds of a feather stick together"...

Posted by Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400, Long Island Home and Condo Specialists (The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803) almost 5 years ago

Hi Joe.  Hard to believe there are people like this in the world and how they find like minded people to do business with.

Posted by Gabe Sanders, Stuart Florida Real Estate (Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales) almost 5 years ago

Good morning Joe. Just take a deep breath and mutter the words: "you can't fix stupid"! Makes it easier to bear. Enjoy your day!

Posted by Wayne Martin, Real Estate Broker - Retired (Wayne M Martin) almost 5 years ago

Hi Joe.  I would not have gotten involved.  It can only go down hill from answering the phone.

Posted by Conrad Allen, Webster, Ma, Realtor (Re/Max Professional Associates) almost 5 years ago

We always discus with Both the listing agent and the buyer what timelines work...and these days ....adding holidays besides...it huold be common...apparently not so common sense.

Posted by Sally K. & David L. Hanson, WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce (EXP Realty 414-525-0563) almost 5 years ago

Good morning Joe.  As you stated you went ahead against your better judgment.  Just live with it and learn from your error.  Next time you'll know what to say.

Posted by James Dray, Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results (Fathom Realty) almost 5 years ago

Yup, I would definitely refer this agent on with his buyers to someone else...an agent who does not hear or get the way things are brings nothing but true aggravation, Joe.  Decide if it is worth it to you?!

Posted by Ginny Gorman, Homes for Sale in Southern RI and beyond (RI Real Estate Services ~ 401-529-7849~ RI Waterfront Real Estate) almost 5 years ago

Good morning, Joe Petrowsky I think since you've already "stepped in it" you need to continue the messy walk....

Posted by Barbara Todaro, Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team (RE/MAX Executive Realty - Retired ) almost 5 years ago

You did the right thing by contacting the agent. Have a good day.

Posted by Gita Bantwal, REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel (RE/MAX Centre Realtors) almost 5 years ago

Good morning Joe,

They do say opposites attract; so how does he get the same type of people.

Maybe he has an assistant and he cannot read.

Make yourself a great day.

Posted by Raymond E. Camp, Licensed Real Estate Salesperson Greater Rochester (Howard Hanna Real Estate Services) almost 5 years ago

Good morning Joe Petrowsky ,

I'm with Barbara Todaro, at this point in time you are in.... good, or bad. It will get messy but hey you've even told the listing agent ..6 weeks is 6 weeks! Let us know the outcome!

Posted by Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR, Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate (Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899) almost 5 years ago

I'd have probably gone with my gut and not taken them on.....but that's me.

Posted by Roger D. Mucci, Lets shake things up at your home today! (Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092) almost 5 years ago

Good morning Joe. Even a broken clock is right  twice a day. Next time.....go with your gut. The agent knows you can and do perform so he is continuing to come back.

Posted by Sheila Anderson, The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133 (Referral Group Incorporated) almost 5 years ago

Grin and push and hope that turn around is lightning fast? But then you start the expectation, pattern to turn everything upside down and play different than nicey nicey. There is not enough time to do the deal so stick to guns that the underwriter says no dice unless the time frame fits the real estate mission.

Posted by Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573, Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker (MOOERS REALTY) almost 5 years ago

Joe Petrowsky And the good news is that even jerks can make a living, but I surely don't understand why.

Bill Roberts

Posted by Bill Roberts, "Baby Boomer" Retirement Planner (Brooks and Dunphy Real Estate) almost 5 years ago

Joe - this sounds all too familiar.  If you don't like the referral or the referral group you will not like the referrals.  That has been the case with me also.

Posted by Grant Schneider, Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes (Performance Development Strategies) almost 5 years ago

Joe I wonder if is the same Agent that I have also had bad experiences with and refuse to work with him or any of his Borrowers.  And yes the last Borrower he had contact me directly I told them to call someone else because I will not work with this Agent.  It goes beyond unrealistic commitment and closing dates with him.

Posted by George Souto, Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert (George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages) almost 5 years ago


I guess you have to continue on the road..!  A

Posted by Ron and Alexandra Seigel, Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy (Napa Consultants) almost 5 years ago

Joe - law of attraction. Break that link - after this one. Co-operation is what we strive for with all our partners - not being a pain to work with.

Posted by Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, CRS, Broker, Instructor, 602-380-4886 (HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000) almost 5 years ago

Like you Joe Petrowsky, I try to work with all of the clients that come to me.   I tell everyone what I can and will do.   If that is unacceptable I expect them to find help elsewhere.   At the same time, I find clients AND Realtors are willing to adjust because they know I am being straight forward with them  

Posted by DEANNA C. SMITH CERTIFIED MOBILE NOTARY, Highest Ranked Certified Mobile Notary in Virginia (Certified Mobile Notary Signing Agent) almost 5 years ago